Quote of the Week

It has been said, ‘time heals all wounds.’ I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.

-Rose Kennedy

6 Responses to “Quote of the Week”

  • “His grief he will not forget; but it will not darken his heart, it will teach him wisdom.” ~The Return of the King (The Lord of the Rings)

    I just read this and I thought it went well with your quote. We may never forget some of our wounds, but it is good to know that God has a purpose in all things.

  • That goes very well, Sarah!

    I believe I would not want to forget a single wound I’ve suffered… because every one of those represents a learning experience that has helped me become who I am today.

    It would be a tragedy to forget–then we would have to learn lessons over and over again (such as “don’t touch the hot oven rack without a pot-holder” ouch)

  • But what if we could remember the lesson without remembering or the pain? What lesson is there to be learned from experiencing the pain that comes with the loss of a loved one. And does that pain ever go away.

    The “don’t touch the hot oven rack” analogy doesn’t work for emotional pain, sometimes there is no lesson, and it’s not just remembering the pain but re-experiencing the pain over and over again. (On Birthdays, Holidays, or Anniversaries)

  • I can relate to what both of you are saying. I have learned (and still am learning) those lessons about “If I do x the result is bad- so I really shouldn’t do that”. For me these lessons tend to come up when I do things my way regardless of the way God is telling me to do them…and then things don’t go as well and I need God’s grace to pick me up and clean me up again.

    But I can relate to what you are saying Kevin. There are some pains that go much deeper than others and sometimes we don’t know why God has allowed it. (And Em I don’t think you were disreguarding this- you were just talking about a different kind of pain). Two years ago my grandma died of cancer and I cannot tell you how many countless times I have cried because I love her so much. This week was her birthday and I broke down in tears again in church today. I will spare you a very long description of how painful it has been to lose someone who always showed me unconditional love, patience and wisdom. But you asked what lesson there is in all of this… I honestly don’t know. I have had some oportunities to share with some people because of my loss but I wont say that was all of God’s purpose in taking my Grandma. The only thing I know is that God is good and He has been with me through this and He has given me grace as I have needed it- sometimes through friends like both of you and sometimes through other means. If you are experiencing pain- take it to Jesus and remember that one day all the tears will be wiped away from our eyes! Until then, I am praying for you!

  • Sarah… I’m glad you shared that. The problem with pain is that human instinct is to want the pain to stop, but alot of emotional pain the way for relief to come is to walk through it and come out on the other side. I’m glad you’ve made it through the toughest part with you Grandma and the funny thing is… at this point you probably don’t even want the pain to go away… it’s part of you.

    I think that’s what the quote is talking about. Just like a brother who may leave you with a scar on your body, your grandma left you scar in your brain, and everytime you examine that part of your brain you will remember and miss your Grandma. The scar never goes away.

  • So you asked what is the value of pain…are you acknowledging that there is value in pain?

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